With regard to your asking my opinion about living after the wedding in a room that you have in the courtyard, where the kitchen is found outside and distant from your room, and your intended feels that this is not in a manner of tznius:

In matters such as these, and in light of the verse "The entire glory of a king's daughter is inward," it is important to consider her opinion and seek a fit dwelling. And He who provides all the other expenses will provide for this as well, since it is being done to fulfill His will in the matter of tznius, and surely as it applies to a daughter in Israel.

Excerpt from Igros Kodesh, Vol. IX, p. 184